OK–back to the story! So, we had decided not to have any more biological children, but my husband seemed to be done adding to our family…..
My thoughts about adoption were really put on the back burner until I had a “chance” meeting in the Wal-Mart parking lot with a friend who had been living overseas for some time and had come home for a brief visit. During their time in their new country, they had decided to adopt a child from that country, and were very close to being matched with a child. She was so excited, and this conversation just stirred my desire back up! I told her that I had always thought about doing something like that, but that I really didn’t know anything about the process or where to begin, and that I was pretty sure my husband would not go along with the idea. She told me to pray and ask God if maybe this was a leading from Him. She encouraged me that if this was God’s plan, my husband would come alongside and be supportive.
Well, a few days later, I told my husband about my thoughts, but not about the “Wal-Mart Encounter.” He was not at all on board! He saw how busy we were with our four biological children and he didn’t want to do anything that might disturb our home life. His biggest concern, though, was that his job takes him out of the home so much that many times I am left almost as a single-parent for days (and sometimes weeks) at a time. He had always planned to stay in that job until at least 2008. So he said that maybe we could consider something like adoption after 2008–our kids would then be older too. I was DEVASTATED! I really thought that God was working, but things didn’t appear to be following along like I had expected.
Dan and I had many heated “discussions” over the next few weeks about adoption, but he was firm in his thoughts. Eventually I decided to again put the matter on the back burner. I did not realize that God really was working in Dan’s life . . . .
What a good cliff-hanger! Ha-Ha! I will continue this story in Part 3 in the entries to come.
Lois
